In all of the relationships you have experienced in your life, how many of those could you tell were doomed for failure? For some, you might have anticipated that the relationship was going to fail, but for others you could have been blindsided. Most of us have a gift when it comes to breakup premonitions and see the signs that the relationship is going to fail.

There are many reasons why people breakup, but not everyone knows the telltale signs that a breakup is on the horizons. Today, our New Jersey Singles expert matchmakers will show you the warning signs that you’re heading towards a split.  

Signs the Two of You Are Going to Break Up Soon

Listed below, our New Jersey Singles expert matchmakers have composed a list of the most common signs your relationship is headed downhill fast.

1. The little things irritate the life out of you.

You used to love your partner’s habit of twirling their hair, but now it irritates the life out of you. At the beginning of your relationship, you fell in love for many reasons.

But in time, some of those habits are becoming intolerable for you and you feel like you’re about to explode. It is quite possible that the attraction is long gone and resentment has set in, and this is a major sign your relationship is headed for a breakup.

2. Conversations turn to fights.

You once loved talking to your partner about everything under the sun, but now, everything that comes out of their mouth annoys and makes you want to leave the room. And when you call them out on these things, they become defensive, causing a fight. If all your conversations are turning into fights, you’re in trouble.

3. You fight about the littlest things.

It might have started over who forgot to do the dishes, but it turned into who is ungrateful and lazy and quickly escalated into insults.

Then, came the screaming, tears, and dish towels being thrown around. The fight ends badly and no one wants to apologize.

4. You spend more time apart than together.

Spending time away from each other is healthy in a romantic relationship, and our New Jersey Singles expert matchmakers encourage it, but when you no longer want to be with your partner, then it might be because you are no longer interested in them.

People in relationships need to spend time with each other to create a strong bond. But lately, when you spend time with your partner, it feels more like a chore to you. This is a sign your relationship is headed for a breakup.

5. You feel better when you are away from them.

When you look at your partner lately, all you wish is that you didn’t have to see their face. Now, you want to avoid them at all costs. Actually, you’re beginning to feel more at ease when you’re not around them and don’t have to talk to them.

Keep in mind that there is a difference between wanting to be alone, or hanging out with your friends, and not wanting to be around your partner. When you start to avoid your partner, we know that’s a major sign your relationship is heading for the rocks.

6. You always think negative of them.

Instead of missing them and wanting to be with them, you think about all the negative things they do. If the only time you’re not thinking negatively about them is when they’re doing something nice, then this can be a sign you only want your partner for what they can do for you.

7. You think about the what ifs.

What if you were single, would you be focusing more on advancing in your career? Would you be able to start a new hobby? What if you were dating someone else, would you be a happier person? It’s okay to think about these things here and there, but if questions like this are consuming most of your thoughts, and you’re starting to fantasize about the what ifs, then you may end up resenting your partner for holding you back.

8. You have become critical of them.

You always see the things your partner could improve. You wish they were more affectionate, showed you more appreciation, and were more thoughtful with others. You didn’t have this problem before, but now it feels like you don’t want to be around them because they are inadequate in everything. From their point of view on politics, their work ethics, and even their table manners, you have become very critical of them.

9. You’re thinking about a break.

Breaks can sometimes help a relationship improve, as they give you time to think about what you want, but a break only has two outcomes: you can either get back together and be stronger than ever, or it can lead to a permanent breakup. And if you’re in an on and off relationship with your partner, you already know in your heart what your outcome will be.

10. You keep track of all their wrongdoings.

Our New Jersey Singles expert matchmakers know this is a bad habit in a relationship, but many people do it anyways. People do it so they can get an upper hand in an argument and feel better about themselves. But is winning an argument really that important?

Doing this might help you win an argument, but it’s also showing your partner that you can’t forgive.

11. You can’t forget past mistakes.

There are different types of mistakes that happen in relationships. Small ones like forgetting to take out the trash or big ones like infidelity. If you can’t forgive them, you’ll always be carrying that burden with you, and this is another sign you are going to break up soon.

The sooner you realize your relationship is headed for the breakup department, the sooner you can find a remedy for it. If the relationship has become too toxic, or you know there is nothing you can do to save it, then by all means, call it quits. We encourage you to do it sooner than later because the last thing you want to do is stay in an unhealthy relationship longer than you need to.

If you’re ready to find a compatible partner, someone you can cultivate a happy and healthy relationship with, contact our matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles Dating Service today by calling 1 (888) 417-0020.